Ruffalo opened up about his own mother's experience with having an abortion . Published by Family Friend Poems November 2008 with permission of the author. Considered his feelings but ultimately decided I wasnt going to to do it. Once my ears have developed properly, Am I selfish for bringing our baby into this world? This post hit home for me. Im in my final year in university. She is a very strong woman but this is killing her slowly and I dont know how to help. Share Your Story Here. I walked back to the preschool where I work with ten minutes to spare and decided, Ill just do it now. Im 9 weeks pregnant. I want this baby, but I know financially we wouldnt be able to afford it. They told me to think about what I wanted to do and that theyd support me regardless of my choice. There are different ways to go about this, like: Im sad, but dont regret it. I'll sing loudly in my first school concert I feel like shit because I was raised that this was wrong. You can always come back. I tell her, I cant. Im honest enough with myself to know that if I leave, I will never will come back. My decision to have an abortion was a major fork in the road of my life. There arent any protesters out that day and Im grateful. I want to help the conversation start on a different platform and educate. Im so torn and feel so alone. I never knew if I wanted kids or not or if Id make a good mother. I am totally against abortion. Cant help thinking its meant to be when I got pregnant again. 36 years old and its looking like I wont get another chance. A Letter to the Girl Who's Considering an Abortion March 25, 2021 by Lindsay Smith Hi Sweet Girl, I don't need to know your name or look into your eyes, and I don't need to have been where you find yourself tonight to know that you're terrified and in pain. I just wanted to say thank-you for sharing your story. I didnt want to be, but I had a hard time standing up to him and saying no for myself. The abortionist, he explains, after draining the uterus of the amniotic fluid that was protecting the child, inserts a claw-like instrument into the womb. Im so confused and torn between getting an abortion or keeping the baby. Like you, I was afraid and let fear took over my life. You can also sign up as Sugar . Its been two years since my abortion and I always think about that little heart beat. Anti-abortion and abortion-rights activists argue their viewpoints on the steps of the State House in Trenton, N.J., April 30, 1973. I would do things so differently. It is a very heartbreak-ling sad feeling. I was rattled with anxiety and guilt and overwhelmed. In her 2021 memoir, Teresa Leet shares her experiences in both having an abortion and placing her baby for adoption.While the abortion caused her years of emotional trauma, she has no regrets about choosing adoption.. A lack of knowledge about abortion. Xx, I found out I was pregnant on this day a year ago and like you I was scared. I instantly thought about abortion and although I was afraid Id regret it I went ahead and scheduled the appointment. What you did in your life is your history and your past and whatever you choose to share with your husband, or what he found out on his own, is a privilege; it is your truth and what he knows of that, he should consider as an honor, because it is your unique story to tell. I was clearly going to get my period. She gave her baby girl up for adoption, and now that baby is an adult. I feel so torn apart. My room mate and best friend had an abortion two days ago. And while sometimes they are not always as sensitive to the subject as Id like (not on purpose) it feels so relieving to tell someone. When I found out I was pregnant, was overcome with fear. We dont regret it. Now he blames himself and cries like me everyday. You have a child. I want two more children. Even with his support, the support of my mother, sister, and friends.. All I can think about is that Ill no longer be able to turn to her when I feel like doing something that stupid teenagers do. When you make this list of pros and cons, I think it will help you understand the reality. So I can understand your conflicting emotions. I cried so bad in the clinic and during the procedure that I still have nightmares and flashbacks often. Oh mommy, I can't go on anymore help me 17 years have gone by since you made that fateful decision. My younger half sister is also pregnant with a girl which I always thought I would have. I think about you so often and wish so badly I could turn back time. I dont know what to do, I know exactly how you feel . Sharla Ynostrosa | 01/11/2021. I made the decision to get an abortion at 8weeks. She wrote this piece to destigmatize abortion and to offer a story of strength and hope to women and men alike. I do wish I wouldve had more support during this time, mainly because my husband shut down due to his circumstances, but it has gone to show me just how strong I am and how much stronger I can be. I dont know where to go or what to research for. I regret my decision so much and cannot put it into words. Ive just got an amazing job that I cant afford to give up, I suffered badly with my mental health the first time round. Abortion pills are the most common way to end a pregnancy in the United States and have become a focus for anti-abortion groups and Republican officials seeking to block access in their states. Im very open about discussing this, but its been difficult. I loved this poem so much, it made me cry. One day, maybe. Hello Mommy, this is me, your baby- Filed Under: Archive, Blog, Let's Talk Abortion, I had an abortion 10 years ago and I still regret my decision because I was living in the country with out a permit at the time I was considered an iligal imegrant and I was afraid what was gone happen to my baby . It breaks my heart to know that the only two times Ive been pregnant ended with me terminating. I was very helpless. I'm not trying to make you feel guilty, but if you are planning to abort your baby, please reconsider. I was shocked. So please mommy, don't let me down. I miss my baby every minute of every day. I am sad you were sad. I dont want having another baby to be detrimental to my current children and cant help think that it will be. After I check in, I have to take another urine test. Constant regret and pain . Everything in life was so uncertain and I had nothing and had no idea where I was going and a part of me felt pressure from everyone else. fTo tell you the truth I can't explain how happy I am to know that you are my mom. I miss my baby constantly. I have images that its the same as trying to kill one of my current children. The copyright of all poems on this website belong to the individual authors. Pro . Im so scared though, because Im no longer with my boyfriend I wont get to meet that baby anymore, if it happens it will be with someone else, most likely. Would you call that dad-approved? I work a half day, then your dad picks me up and we drive to Planned Parenthood. She wo t talk to anyone as she feels she would be seen as weak. I didnt want to do this. I was so excited when I found out because I didnt even know if could have kids. For some reason, Im not moved, but still, I dont want to lose you. I wanted to be your special child. All their comments are stressing me out and getting me really down. I was not ready although Im 24 years old. When I first find out I was shocked because it was unplanned and I know he doesnt want a baby yet he said he is not ready and me either but deep down I dont want to do this at all and i wanna see that cute little face:(( We agreed to do abortion. Long story short Im 26 now, engaged to my partner for the last 5 years. Yes, Im still pregnant. I was wondering how you are feeling. the world makes us feel weak. More than I want good . Although I did it for health reasons I am still recovering. My eyes fixate on her belly, and I sob. Im sending love your way, dear one. I think about it most days (I would be due on 30th May which coincidentally is my birthday) but I dont dwell on it anymore and do appreciate that for me it just wasnt the right time and I was not ready or prepared to give a child the life it deserves. As you can imagine, childhood and progression through young adulthood is very hard for foster children because most of our supports disappear once we turn 18 or so and are no longer eligible for the child welfare systems services. Raising her was not easy on my own but he convinced me to move back so he can have his family. As I was peeing, I thought, Well, its definitely going to be negative since this isnt my first pee of the day. Im a working fulltime mom Ive always been morally against abortions Ive always advocated against them and here I am having to contemplate one. Open Letter Concerning the Killing of "Baby Amanda" On November 3, 2022, National Public Radio (NPR) aired the sounds of the killing of a Child through abortion. Hes basically ignoring me emotionally but talking to me civil. To explain the center's work, Pinson told a story about a girl who showed up with her mom on the morning the Heartbeat Act took effect, asking for an abortion. 30 years old , Im pregnant now. I open it and see two pictures of you. Below is the letter from the woman to her baby in full and without edits. I cant get the ultrasound picture or the thought of the potential of my baby out of my head. This is just not exactly what I wanted for her and Im scared to lose my best friend in a sense because Im not quite ready to grow up that fast. We want to expand our family but we werent expecting to do it so soon. My periods had always been very irregular and I had taken over the counter tests when it got late but I got negatives the both times so I was certain I wasnt pregnant. In the last twenty minutes of my lunch break, I walked to Walgreens and bought the test thinking the employees must assume Im really irresponsible (I guess I was?). I have an ultrasound which tells me you are a five-week-and-two-day-old single embryo. We wouldnt. We have been having the same unprotected sex as we were while still together. We started trying, but didnt expect it to come so soon. All the best to you <3. Then I sobbed when I put the phone down. My advice to you would be to remember that at the end of the day, and your life, you have to be able to live with yourself, so forget about what your partner wants and do what is right for you. We done the best we could at the time, and thats all we can do. I was accepted into the Montessori teacher training program two days prior. I knew she hurt for me too. I couldnt relate more to this paragraph you wrote: How do I pick them? I wish I could have kept him/her. Congratulations! It helps to know I am not alone so thank you. Maybe you think no one understands. This story is so touching and Im thankful to have come across it. Im 18 and also 6 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend says I have to abort it. My supports at the time were my boyfriend, a few very close friends my age, and my 4 younger siblings (3 were under 6 years old at this time). I failed my baby boy and Im still trying to figure out how to be at peace with myself and sometimes Im so scared I never will be. My heart tells me it wa a girl. I tell him I dont want an abortion, but nothing about this makes sense. According to Florida's Reducing Fetal and Infant Mortality law, which was implemented last July, abortions are prohibited after 15 weeks of gestation, with a few exceptions, including one that. I am thinking of you xx. Ever. My partner said he would support me either way but I knew deep down to him it might as well have been the end of the world. I felt you crying when you went to the doctor. My boyfriend stayed with me but after a while he started blaming me and our relationship change . I looked at them and I couldnt believe that that potential was now inside me. but no one wants that for me. I dont have the financial capability to take care of a child. Thank you for sharing. I hope that there wasnt a little soul in there yet . But tbh, by that point in our unhealthy relationship I had enough resentments of my own towards him to really care much. It could take several hours for the baby to die, and sometimes the baby didn't die at all and was born . I loved you, my first, my only.. Now Im thinking an abortion is my only option, I kicked him out last night. All I wanted to do was feel your skin and smell you. Hesitantly I got the pill, I was just a day before 10 weeks, I held my baby and cried until I couldnt. I just turned 21,everyone wants me to keep the baby and I want to be a mom but I dont at the same time. Would adoption be something you could manage? This was with the same toxic individual that I got pregnant the first time with . March 8, 2014 at 4:36 pm. We hope to be parents one day and in honour of everything that has happened and what we have been through are doing everything we can to build a secure future so that when the time is right we are prepared. I dont know how I got to this point of being so mistreated and lost. You will always be part of my heart, and I know that if someday I see two pink lines again, it will be you coming back to me. I had abortion almost 4 years ago and it still affects me greatly. The month before was the most emotionally and physically exhausting of my life. I never talked to people about it after. I found your post when I was idly googling if I ever was a mother too and Im sitting here and crying. The Dublin Declaration , signed by over 1,000 medical professionals, states "As experienced practitioners and researchers in obstetrics and gynecology, we affirm that direct abortion - the. I had an abortion 6 years ago at 41 years old and was the one and only time to have a child I always wanted. I feel manipulated and trapped. Im up and down about it all. Thanks again for this though, I wish you the best and its great to know I am not alone. I have tried to persuade her to look at forums or see a psychiatrist to help her through the guilt but she doesnt want to be associated with the stigma attached with it. Maybe you're frightened. Everyone at work keeps getting pregnant and every time I hurt. When I first found out I initially was a bit upset but over a few days I grew very attached. I just keep crying. i struggle deeply with wanting to try again. And wham, I unexpectedly end up pregnant, at 41. I went through every logistic financial, physical, mental to see if I could go through with it. I am experiencing so much guilt and pain going through this again, especially since I am 32 years old with no children and two months away from completing my masters. Abortion Poem Letter To Mommy From The Womb To be honest, I have always felt strongly against abortion. Wish I had a way to contact you personally. I am in the middle of mine as I type this. I know I made the right decision but Im feeling really bad and sad right now. Im not pregnant. I went into the first floor bathroom and peed on that little white-tipped stick. 'Dear Mommy' So begins the correspondence from an unborn baby to her mother. I was its mother. Letter from a Woman Who Had an Abortion. I am so sorry you had to go through this. I had gone off my birth control a year prior and I didnt get my period for six months; then once I did, they were not predictable: they always came, but my cycle wasnt steady. This broke him completely when I got the abortion done. I loved you, my first, my only." The afternoon I found out I was pregnant with you was just like any other day waiting for my period: I was late. I took the pill at 6 weeks. I got an abortion two years ago and while I know it was the right decision it is something I still mourn, that was my first and my only as well and this article HITS HOME. I, well, thankfully few days ago I conceived in your tummy. Im at the point where leaving him is the only option because each day he tells me to get an abortion in person, texts, etc. Tell your friends, I dont have many friends but Ive told my closest ones. Well, I made it out alive. Im giving up the pregnancy to focus on my toddler & also to avoid a life of suffering for the new baby You know in your heart what the right decision is. Tomorrow I take the pills to expel the tissue. Featured Shared Story I loved this poem so much, it made me cry. Seven months latter she wrote this letter to a priest. A few days later I had a surgical abortion. I n 1967, when Governor Ronald Reagan made California the third state in the union to liberalize its abortion laws, his hesitancy about doing so was clear from the start . Because I was born, because I can talk and breathe air and because you can visibly see me in front of your face, I had the "right" to take my first baby's life away. I had an abortion two years ago and I regret it in some ways, but in others I am massively grateful I did it. I even Bought girl stuff.. in the end I told myself he was right. You can do more than you think you can. I know you made the right decision for you! I will be 37 years old and have had previous abortions but after this miscarriage (I never had one before), fear that I will never conceive again came across me. Its been 3 months since my abortion. I just hope that I can. I felt like death every day sometimes unable to stay out longer than 2 hours outside. Family assumes that I just dont want to have them, when in reality, now, is that no one will have one with me. I did it because I loved that little soul so much that I knew he deserved better. It took almost 6 months and I delivered my poor child.. But deep down I know I might regret it if I abort it. Immediately after I felt relief that I was not constantly nauseous and I could eat again. I want more than anything to be a mom. Just like you, I too was in university. Now, faced with having one in our early 40s is terrifying. I am finish a social work degree and my fiance just finished his Masters and has started working. Hi, my story is very quite similar to yours. I was worried I would have preeclampsia again, which could put baby and me in danger. I chose to have an abortion for many reasons, including those I just mentioned. Always imagine what he or she will look like. In a recent post on the Reddit forum TwoXChromosomes, an anonymous user shared her feelings about her upcoming abortion: Little Thing: I can feel you in there. I miss my baby. Now that he had finally accepted it, it officially became reality. Massachusetts Democrat told to resign after abortion remarks leave parents irate. I feel like its hard to find forums where women arent either all regret or all confidant/fine with their decision. I will make my decision within the next 2 weeks. I am a teacher and take care of infants to two year olds, Im devastated because in a better situation I would have kept this child. I realize this is an odd place to share this information, and I am in a much different situation now, but several years ago my partner and I struggled through severe male factor infertility when TTC my youngest. The doctor leaves and your dad and I hold each other and cry. We just signed the lease on our apartment and we were planning a trip to Italy for next summer. He said he would be there no matter what, but I still didnt want to force a family on him if thats not what he wanted. In a saline abortion procedure, caustic saline solution was injected into the mother's womb.